Posts Tagged "Parenting"

November Value “Self-Discipline and Moderation”

I’m ready to tackle this value this month. It’s appropriate for the holidays coming up and making sure we are disciplined enough and use all these in moderation. I added “Methods” to my board because I was finding that we weren’t applying the value as much and weren’t being reminded of it enough even though I have this ginormous chalkboard in my family...

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Relationships by Matt Townsend

Prayer fight Strong, peaceful, confident and imperfect in gods presence When we come down here we don’t feel those attributes here we beat ourselves up. Don’t get caught up in the genders. Your not your job, your kids grade point average, your not their inadequcies Your ever frustrated about your children. Look at the father. “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience we are spiritual beings having a human experience” You are not your disorder. The body and mind and sprit are in a battle. Ony one will bring you the peace it brings to you father in heaven We are in the covenant to save me and to give me some mechanism to always remember him. When you have a battle to do your VT and HT where are you in your body that gives you anxiety? Mind, body, spirit. Mosiah 3:19. Natural man is an enemy to god. It happened since the fall of adam. Adam and Eve noticing their nakedness. Pornogrpahy Adam and body image Eve. Spirit wouldn’t focus on body. The mind noticed it. That’s when all 3 came together and that’s when the birth happened. We sit here on Earth and we aren’t perfect. We are a covenant people. We are one of 15 million people. Why am I here? When was the moment you felt the most alone? Imagine in that moment in your bedroom and you cry. In the middle you feel this peace and the savior is by your side. What does he do? Sits and holds you and pulls you in. That is the spirit of god. How fast did we get there? We remembered him! Fear that he is going to leave? Now is the time to prepare to meet god. Quit wasting your thoughts for tomorrow. Be here right now!! Song of redeeming love scripture.?? What am I worried about If I’m a daughter of god? It helps me deal with life when I’m in the spirit. Work on that first and then address the problems. Own it! Woman thy faith hath made thee whole. Relax! Where do you go when your in a predicament? The Lord. You go to The Lord to change you not them! It was for nephi to kill Laban. **What has The Lord commanded you specifically today to do in your life, family, marriage? Ex. Pray with your family, scripture study, FHE, family dinner, spend one on one time, Jesus looked to his god while he was in the garden. Likewise we need to look up so we can endure. We are just to stay in it We do it over and over again. Why do we have to keep enduring. We are here to be sons and daughters of god. We are to become gods. **Frame our goal in life to find the spirit in our life each day. **A sin is not just an act its an absence of spirit. Think of a family member that’s your biggest test? Imagine it’s done it’s over and they called everyone to church all those you love and in some room you get to walk in and your Savior’s there. He calls your family up and he calls the one up to the savior and The Lord anoints them. Their face has peace. Then the person you’ve struggled with is called up. What does The Lord do to that one? What do you feel witnessing it? That is how you should approach that person. Jesus Christ lives in the covenant. Pres Hinckley marriage advice in the temple “There you go, now you...

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October Value “Self-Reliance & Potential”

I’ve been really enjoying our experiences as a family with focusing one a value per month and it helps having it written for all to see. This was a great value to work on after the weekend I had with Trent.

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September Value “Peaceability”

I’ve had this value of the month stuff for quite a few years and its all tucked away in a pretty white binder hidden in one of my baskets. Well I found it today while organizing of course and just got an overwhelming feeling that my children need access to this. So I made a deal with myself that if I stuck it out and did one value per month that I could reward myself with some workout clothes at the end of the month. Good incentive right? It works for me! I’ve decided too that I really need to study the word “consistentcy”. I tend to jump off the bandwagon and then find myself beating myself up that I didn’t stick it out with many of my brilliant time consuming list making idea. So here is to the month of...

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Anchoring our Children to Heaven

From 2013 Women’s Conference. Allie’s notes she took at this class: Anchoring our children to heaven Ether 12:4 Build a foundation: Start Early Independence Chores, choices, consequences Spiritual foundation Daily actions- patterns and traditions Adjust responsibilities as mature Principle of Work: Obedience, respect, reverence, service Work is a gift, work is a blessing, love of work is success. – David O’McKay. Be happy when work A reservoir of goodwill -make special time (15-20mins) with each child a day. -pay attention to positives -gain trust – no commands, instructions, or probing -finish with expressing how much you enjoyed being with them. —-This teaches-Not all interactions are about misbehaving or correction Connection, monitoring, autonomy Make time for time. Spend positive time with kids. We need to make that happen. Be intentional. On raising children, “It’s not something you do if you can squeeze time in, it is what God gave you time for.” Neil Andersen Rose blooming story/lesson If we have faith and are connected with the sane anchor with our children, we don’t need to hover. Coach your child thru problems, don’t try to solve them for them. Have faith that God is there. Our children wee his before they were ours. Let them choose: Learn principles together, invite them to act, observe, follow up Let then have experiences, sometimes they will fail. They will learn and then we can rejoice in the lesson learned. The blessing of consequences. Allow children to experience natural and logical consequences. They learn accountability and responsibility for their choices. Notice, focus on, and reward the positive. Much better than punishing bad behavior Emphasize their strengths Tell them your proud of them Help them recognize their God given talents. Dinner bug- fake meal time. Practice meal behavior. “Thank you very much” before they ever have a chance to misbehave. Every 20seconds, then more time in between praise. We miss opportunities to praise them with what they are doing well. No dumb questions: the Book of Mormon came because a boy asked a question. James 1:5 Teach children to get on knees and ask Heavenly Father. The power of the Book of Mormon in our homes. Marion G Romney, ensign may...

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