Mother

“Motherhood is a choice you make everyday to put someone else’s happiness and well being ahead of your own.  To teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when your not sure what the right thing is….and to forgive yourself over and over again for doing everything wrong.”  –Donna Bell

Lehi City Firefighter PT Test

Posted by on May 29, 2015 in Mother | 0 comments

I had the opportunity to participate in a physical training test that our local fire station put together. We have a few firefighters that work out at the gym I train at and I was asked along with a few female’s to participate.

They currently don’t have any female firefighters here in the city so they wanted to get a variety of women together to test us on a few techniques and training pieces they work with.   They wanted to get an average time it would take a female to complete the challenge.

I was all over the idea when it was presented to me by my fellow firefighter, Jake.  I even enlisted a few other girls here at my gym to come.  Then asked a neighbor of mine to come do it with me too.  I was so excited to do something I’ve never done before.

We arrived at the city rodeo grounds and walked through the challenges that were presented to us and did a few trial runs on a couple to “test” it out before we were timed.  During this time of walking through it I kept thinking………

“Oh this is a piece of cake”

“I’ve got this, this is nothing”

“I’ve carried heavier”

and so on and so forth.

I walked over and said, “I wanna go, I’m so ready for this!”  I usually like to go first on challenges to just get it over with so I can enjoy watching everyone else.  The next question the firefighters asked me was if I wanted to have the oxygen tank on along with the coat and hat.  I wanted to have the full experience so of course I said yes!

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Mind you the coat and hat alone weighed about 10-15lb then the tank was another 35lb.  I got all dolled up in the gear and I was set to go!  The two other friends of mine, Christina and Lisa, cheered me on as I began.

The first challenge was to take off the caps on the fire hydrant and crank the top to open it up to get the flow of water.  (water was turned off for the test) I was taught a way to do the challenge in the walk through so as I began I noticed that it was taking me a lot longer than I had anticipated.  I began to get frustrated in my mind saying, “Come on, Sarah, what’s wrong with you, they just showed you how to do it and look you can even twist it off!”

So as you can see my mind was already off to a not so good start because as I prepped I was overly confident that I had this in the bag!  So I began to doubt myself and to beat myself up in my mind about my capabilities.  I began to get nervous and my heart was racing because it was such a simple task and I was struggling.

The next challenge was to drag the hose on my shoulder a few feet down and back 2 times.  Then run to the bleachers and pack the 50lb hose on my shoulder up and down the stairs twice.  By this challenge I was already spent!  My legs were on FIRE, my mind was going left and right about how stupid I was to think this was easy and then I had moments of telling myself that I can do it and to just chill out!

The next challenge was to see where you were mentally when your body was exhausted and we had to put together a mega block’s piece by piece according to the picture that was shown.  Here again I said in my mind that little kids can do this I’ve got it.  Well at this challenge I was there for probably a full minute and a half.  I got a little flustered.

Then I had to crawl through a small crawl space on the ground shimmining through to get out to the other side.  The run to the ladder and walk it upright and grab the ropes to slide it upward and lock it in place then slide it back down and place it back on the ground.

At this point in my mind I was just like, “Sarah, just finish what you started, it doesn’t matter about the time anymore, just finish strong and do your best”

Two challenges left and I had to drag a 180b dummy around a cone and back and didn’t keep up with my momentum and stopped to take a breather when the firefighters suggested not stopping but just keep moving.  By this point I could taste blood in my esophagus and my legs were jello and my breathing was uncontrolled.

The last challenge was the Kaiser sled which was basically you had a mallet in hand and you had to whack the metal piece to a certain spot over and over again.  I knew this was the last one and I just wanted to finish and stop.  So I finally started to get loud and get mean at that piece of metal.  It felt so liberating to finally express openly with my voice.

I learned a few powerful lessons with this experience.

1. Never walk into something you’ve never done and think you are the bee’s knees.  I was overly confident that I could take on such a task.

2.  Listen to the firefighter’s suggestions and try not to change it and do it your way.  They’ve done it before trust them.

3.  Your mind has power and what you say will manifest.

4.  When your negative mind takes over you’re already defeated.

5.  Finish and finish stronger than when you started.

I have such a deeper respect for these women and men who serve us in our local communities as firefighters.  I admire their willingness to put their lives on the line and do some crazy things like walk into fires and many more things.

Sure these firefighters don’t have to do all these challenges at once when they are put on the line but I’m certain that their adeline carries them through and they have to be able to have the mindset to handle whatever is placed before them.

I am constantly learning that on a daily basis and will continue too.  Even though I teach women to control their own negative thoughts doesn’t mean that I don’t have many moments where I feel defeated in my mind.  It’s work and if you choose to you can change it.

Until next time and I would do it over again knowing what I know now.

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Mother’s Day 2015

Posted by on May 11, 2015 in Mother | 0 comments

Mother’s Day 2015

We were in CA for Mother’s Day this year due to Trent’s Grandma June’s funeral.  We got to spend it with his side of the family therefore my mother-in-law felt extra special because all of her children were surrounding her except Travis who is serving a mission in Finland but she did get to talk to him on the phone.

We spent our church service with the San Pasqual Ward in Escondido with Sean and Allie and Tory and Orchids.  We had a great message about the importance of temples and using the Atonement more in our lives.  One of the speakers shared this powerful poem written by Dr. Robert Morehead titled, “The Fellowship of the Unashamed”

“I am a part of the fellowship of the Unashamed. I have the Holy Spirit Power. The die has been cast. I have stepped over the line. The decision has been made. I am a disciple of Jesus Christ. I won’t look back, let up, slow down, back away, or be still. My past is redeemed, my present makes sense, and my future is secure. I am finished and done with low living, sight walking, small planning, smooth knees, colorless dreams, tame visions, mundane talking, chintzy giving, and dwarfed goals.

I no longer need preeminence, prosperity, position, promotions, plaudits, or popularity. I don’t have to be right, first, tops, recognized, praised, regarded, or rewarded. I now live by presence, learn by faith, love by patience, lift by prayer, and labor by power.

My pace is set, my gait is fast, my goal is Heaven, my road is narrow, my way is rough, my companions few, my Guide is reliable, my mission is clear.

I cannot be bought, compromised, deterred, lured away, turned back, diluted, or delayed. I will not flinch in the face of sacrifice, hesitate in the presence of adversity, negotiate at the table of the enemy, ponder at the pool of popularity, or meander in the maze of mediocrity.

I won’t give up, back up, let up, or shut up until I’ve preached up, prayed up, paid up, stored up, and stayed up for the cause of Christ. I am a disciple of Jesus Christ. I must go until He returns, give until I drop, preach until all know, and work until He comes.

And when He comes to get His own, He will have no problem recognizing me. My colors will be clear for “I am not ashamed of the Gospel, because it is the power of God for the salvation of everyone who believes..” (Romans 1:16).

Trent went to go talk with Travis on the phone during sacrament meeting so I had the 3 younger ones with me at the sacrament meeting by myself and they couldn’t sit still.  So I began to laugh at first but then I lost my patience and began to become frustrated.  Usually when I prepare to go to church I have to mentally get ready and to speak good things to myself about my children but today I felt rushed to get to church so I didn’t take the time to do so this time.  So I payed for it.

But as they went happily to the next two meetings with the children I looked forward to just being by myself and reflecting on motherhood and what it means to me.  I continue to work daily on my skills as a mother and to recommit each day to work on my patience and understanding them in their individual process.

One thing I to do with my children is sit down with them and have personal interviews with each of them especially on this Mother’s Day!

I ask them questions about what they love to do, what they love about me, what I can do to be a conscious mother, and what could I do more for them in my relationship.

4 year olds don’t have much of an answer but it’s about connection!

My sister-in-law, Allie, shared these quotes:

“Your body is a temple.  Why?  Because it has the capacity to house not only your eternal spirit but also the eternal spirits of others who will come to the earth as part of your eternal family.”  Elaine S. Dalton

 

“The power to create mortal life is an exalted power.  “Your role is an exalted role.” Dallin H. Oaks

She ended by saying that she has loved and appreciated the blessing and gift to be a mother.  Carrying each of these babies and the multitude of stretch marks that now line my stomach… My conclusion:  it was TOTALLY worth it.

I shall add that I couldn’t agree more!

Annual Family Pictures

Posted by on Oct 21, 2014 in Mother | 0 comments

Annual Family Pictures

We were able to  finally update our family photo after 2 years!  We’ve decided to make it our family’s birthday tradition which happens to be our anniversary on September 28th.  This year was different than most years before because of the changes I have personally made in my life this last year.  I came into this with a stress free mind because in years past just thinking about family pictures I would get anxiety over it.

I created some videos about the experience.

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After pictures

To view our photo album of the pictures go here.

Our photos were taken by the incredible Travis Richardson

Why am I here on this beautiful Earth? What do I have yet to see?

Posted by on May 7, 2014 in Mother | 0 comments

As as a mother I ask myself this question frequently , “Why am I hear on this earth at this moment living how I am?  What do I have yet to see?

You see I was born into a christian home where my parents taught us great values and lessons about life from a gospel perspective from a Christ centered home.   I can’t thank them enough for their determination to teach all of their 8 children the principles that govern us each day as we live here and go through our life experiences.  Not only was it their words that taught me but it was their ACTIONS and their example.  They were ready to SERVE and lead whenever asked upon and not only that but whenever they felt prompted to do so.  They are shining examples of service to me and they shared that love with each of their children.  Service runs in my blood.

I remember in my childhood serving those who couldn’t help themselves.  We had an assisted living facility in our neighborhood and we would go over and do family home evenings, we would take them out into the town, we would have them over to our home, etc.  We also had a neighbor across the street from us, Tom, who was in a wheelchair and we took him under our wing and made sure he felt loved because he lived alone.  He didn’t believe what we did but that didn’t matter he knew that we just wanted to help and serve and most times he wouldn’t accept it but we would do it anyway.  He was kind of stubborn that way.  When I was 14 years old I took over mowing his lawn for him and I gained great satisfaction from my work.  He taught me how to edge the lawn and be sure that each time I came that I would mow in the opposite direction so the grass would grow evenly.

The reason I bring up service is because I’ve always had this dream over the last 5 years to just sell everything I own and go live around the world for a YEAR!  Just pickup and just experience life and to see it through others eyes.  But you see I have stopped myself from creating this because I have 4 children now and it would require alot more organizing and planning but it CAN be done.  I’ve researched many families as well as couples who have done such a thing.  I am DETERMINED to have this life experience before my children are too set in their ways and stuck in a place where we don’t want to be.

Reeghan will be turing 11 this month and my youngest will be 3 and not yet potty trained.  I have made up my mind that the summer of 2015 is our summer to BEGIN our adventure.  We will be in between housing so it works out (Trent doesn’t know this yet but will sure find out real soon)  We have enough time to potty train, get our finances and taxes in order to go, sell everything we own but our clothing and some small necessary items, lay out a plan of action as well as prep me as a mom to school my children on the go (yikes, kind of nervous for that one)  and then to finish up my training and gather more knowledge to go out and share my passion for the mind as well as the body.

While visiting these countries I plan to find service opportunities as well as teaching families how to setup their homes for success and be more organized.  I too would like to interview these families and individuals to find out their story.  We all have a story we can learn from one another and I want to find out more.  We have varying backgrounds, cultures and traditions and I’m ready to learn more about what other families do.

I’ve just been so inspired lately to just go after it and why wait.  Time here on Earth flies by and I’d just like to have my family and I see the world.  To not take life for granted and to just enjoy those people around us.  We all have a story and we all have what it takes to make our lives brilliant, exciting and adventurous. and to create serendipity in our lives.  That is my goal and my drive to work hard this next year so that I can accomplish such a task.  I have alot to offer and I get to use my gifts and talents to bless others around the world.

March Live Big

Posted by on Mar 27, 2014 in Mother | 0 comments

This is my third time attending the 3 day intensive self development seminar but this time I got to be behind the scenes.

I was asked by Marci to assist her because her assistant was unable to be there. It was great to be on the other side and watch and see transformation happen in peoples lives in such a short time.

Each time I’ve come the principles taught are the same but the approach is different each time. The presenters go up and teach without script or notes. They share knowledge they’ve gained over the years and have experienced. That’s what makes it so powerful and effective when you can just be authentic and honest about life.

People come to be uplifted but they don’t realize the long term effect it can have on them if they just “surrender” and take life by the horns and just improve one day at a time. One concept at a time.

I can’t tell you just how much more I’ve had to surrender because of having someone by my side cheering me on. It’s so important to have a mentor or coach in your life to check in on your progress. It’s been an incredible experience to have someone call me out when I’m thinking I’m being a victim instead of a creator.

Life has it’s ups and downs and the way we react to certain things in or life will determine the quality of life we will have.

I have chosen to be a conscious creator and to be aware each day when I’m about to sabbatoge or change my thinking. I have been taught tools to overcome and to conquer and to shift my perception which has been a huge blessing in my life and now I’m teaching my children too.

I just feel so blessed to have this knowledge and be surrounded by amazing people in my life who lift me up. I attract amazing people in my life and I hope that through my example I can teach them a thing or two about believing in themselves and empowering them to make changes in their life to improve their quality of life.

I was able to work behind the scenes with some amazing individuals who live their lives to the fullest. We laughed, we cried, we danced, and best of all we shared.

We had great food and best of all we had some really good sushi. On Friday Marci and I stepped out and went to her TV spot and got to play on the set beforehand and just be silly. She made a video about all the silliness.

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Alta Skiing

Posted by on Mar 14, 2014 in Mother | 0 comments

Our brave neighbors, the Dallin’s, took me and the older three on our first skiing adventure. Trent watched us along with Stratton and their baby from the lodge.

It was a beautiful clear sky day and it was perfect light jacket weather for a good first time.

Alta ski resort has a deal from 3-4:30 for a cheap ski lift ride. So we went to the bunny hill and learned our pizza and French fri’s to learn. Reeghan and I caught on pretty fast and had a blast laughing down the hill and racing back up on the rope pulley. Paetan and Easton took some time and Nate and Lisa were being very patient with us. We could have used another adult though.

We got on the lift ride right at 4:28 we were the second to last ones up the top of the hill. I took Reeghan on the lift and Nate took Easton and Beckham and Lisa had Paetan and their daughter Sienna.

We got off the lift great and started to head down the easy trail and I held Easton’s hand on the turn down. I wasn’t taught how to handle turns so we crashed. I couldn’t get up cause I was on a slant so I finally figured out that I needed to switch sides and flop my skiis to the other side and try getting up on that side and it finally worked.

I thought I could handle going down with Easton but it didn’t workout that well. Luckily the snowmobile came right behind us so they took Easton and Sienna down and Lisa stayed back with Paetan and Reeghan, Beckham and I skied down the hill together.

It was a thrill literally to just take in the fresh mountain air and see the beauty that surrounded me. I can see now how people fall in love with the mountains and skiing.

I made a video of me too and was just smiling the whole ride down. Can’t wait to go again.

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My Journey

Posted by on Feb 17, 2014 in Mother | 2 comments

Yesterday, Trent posted a “brag post” on Facebook and Instagram about me and I was shocked at the response from it.

Here is what he posted:

“My amazing wife @sarahachap reached her goal! Dropped 4% body fat in 2.5 months! You’ll have to ask her about how she did it and what was the biggest change for her. You inspire me Sarah!”

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In response to all those that asked, “What’s your secret?” I decided to write this post to share my journey that began last June when I decided to commit to living healthy.

I live West of Thanksgiving Point and a friend of mine from my neighborhood invited me to work out with her at a gym in the Brick Canvas building at Thanksgiving Point called “Lyceum”.  This gym was exactly what I was looking for.  They taught TRX suspension training and also integrated kettlebells into their program.  

I had been introduced to Kettlebells back in April of 2012 when I lived in North San Diego County and was taught by Lauren Brooks

Lauren also had the TRX suspension training set up as well, but I didn’t use it too much.  I worked with her to get my kettlebell technique down and once I felt comfortable I bought her “at-home” DVD program and did it from home but I wasn’t as consistent.

So I was excited to find Lyceum when I moved to Utah and be taught more of how to use TRX and kettlebells together.

I do have to say that my workout schedule in the past decade was inconsistent between having children, moving and just letting life get in the way. My typical cycle consisted of 3 months on and then I took 3 months off.  I don’t suggest that schedule, it leads to mediocre results!  I determined that in a new gym, in a new area, with new friends, that I could get a fresh start and be committed to sticking it out and not repeat the past 3 months on, 3 months off cycle that I didn’t like.  

I began my training and went about 3 days a week to start and met new faces each time and began to feel comfortable on the TRX suspension training system.  At the end of the summer I had bumped up my schedule to 5 days a week and decided it was time to focus on the nutrition aspect of living healthy.  

The owners of my gym are Jesse and Trish Allen and they are quite the dynamic duo.  They had only had the gym open for about a year by this point and had done a phenomenal job of making you want to come back and making you feel like you were worth the time to take care of your body.

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So in August I decided to invest in my nutrition education and scheduled a sit down with Trish for a one-on-one nutrition consultation so that my nutrition would be on track with my workout program. 

My nutrition at this point consisted of 3 meals a day and maybe 3 to 4 cups of water. I knew I needed help because I had a lack of energy, felt depleted, was dehydrated and to add to it all I was not at all “regular”. I knew I had to change my diet because I had now hit my 3 month mark and I still had a desire to workout!  Yep, I had made it last the typical “stop working out” point and I wanted more. 

Trish taught me some great lessons on nutrition and how to help support myself with supplements. I learned quite a lot from her so if you’re in need of one-on-one help and you’re in the Lehi area, I highly suggest her. If your on Instagram go follow her she also has amazing recipes and tips on there. @trishallen

I slowly began eating 4 meals a day and adding 3 more cups of water to my previous plan. She asked me what my goals were when I came to see her and I said that I wanted to reduce my body fat percentage. I knew it wasn’t about the magic number on the scale, because I knew that if I lost 10 pounds of fat and gained 5 pound of muscle, the scale wouldn’t show as much progress as I was seeing in the mirror.  I wanted to see my progress in percentage not weight. Trish taught me a great lesson that day when she said that a lot of women focus on the scale but once they get where they think they should weigh, they still see fat pockets throughout their body and get frustrated and give up. So the fact that my goal going into this was about my body fat percentage, I wasn’t worried when my weight on the scale wasn’t “moving” as fast as I would have expected if I wasn’t also building lean muscle.

I continued to work up my meals and water each day and do my best to refrain from treats but I began to sabotage and cheat and eat food that I know makes me feel like crap because I would think, “I deserve this, because I’ve worked out so hard.” 

We convince ourselves that we “deserve” things that we know aren’t good for us, because we did something hard, but that’s not what we are going for here!  My goals was to create a LIFESTYLE change not a “current situation change” and then go back to what I did before. 

I still struggled with my relationship with food after working out consistently for about 4-5 months and my body fat had not changed much, although I felt much stronger. 

In October the gym had a challenge to do 2500 kettlebell swings for breast cancer awareness week. I was determined to accomplish this goal. I was motivated to do it and of course the support at the gym was encouraging as well. 

In December the gym did another kettlebell challenge where I ended up doing over 7,000 swings and that’s when I really started to see some changes in my body.

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At the beginning of January was the biggest mind-shift that has ever happened for me. I had already done great things but once again felt like I needed to amp up my game plan and push myself to something outside my comfort zone.

I just started to have a love affair, you could say, with kettlebells that month and I realized that if I wanted to increase my fat burning and strength, I needed to increase my intensity.  I train with a guy, Rob Morris (he’s a former NFL player who won a Superbowl with the colts a few years ago) and he put a little bug in my ear about becoming certified to teach kettlebells.  

He has been working at it as well and mentioned that at the end of February a certification course would be held in San Diego and that I should consider it or prepare for the next one in Chicago in April. 

I thought about it and at first it scared me to death. My fear of “not knowing enough” came into play and the fear of “failure” appeared but I’ve recently learned that these feelings are simply feedback from my subconscious mind telling me something (usually trying to protect is from doing things that we are not 100% sure of that may have caused us pain or a feeling of failure in the past).  I learned from my coach that I needed to process these feelings and put them in check and reconsider the possibilities and to feel the emotion that comes when I thought about achieving something like this that is out of my comfort zone.

I took this and thought about it over and over again and decided that my fear was not rational and that this is something that I can do.  At the first of January I began my kettlebell training with Jesse and a group of awesome people at my gym.  We started training at 5am, 6 days a week and I committed to myself that I was going to do it. 

Since I’ve started I’ve noticed an increase in my mind power but I’ve also been more aware of the “stories” (aka- lame excuses) that I make up in my mind about justifying my fears and doubts. I’ve learned to train my brain and focus on what I want and not on what I’m scared of. Most of my fears I realized are “worse case scenario” type thoughts and never actually happen!

I have seen a change in me. Others have seen a change in me. My strength has increased tremendously and I have had amazing results since December and especially since the first of the year. 

I met another powerful coach recently who came into my life the second week of January.  Trent and I went to an event that Trent’s friend, Gerald Rogers put on called “New Years Breakthrough” and learned a lot of great stuff, but the best part was I met Marci Lock.  I know it wasn’t just by chance.  She came into my life for a reason and I was drawn to her instantly and knew that I needed someone like her to get into my mind and shake things up a bit to get past some beliefs and doubts that I had.

Marci has been a great resource to turn to daily at times where I felt weak and insecure. She motivates me to live my purpose and to fight for myself and to chase my dreams. 

She has become my life coach and a great friend.  I came to her for the mind aspect of her coaching program, although she does have a great body and a workout program as well. I already had been working on my body, so that wasn’t my main goal in working with her.  I wanted to find out why I had made up all these stories in my head about exercise, nutrition, relationships, etc and how I could change those beliefs to support my new “story” of who I am and what I can accomplish. 

If you asked me to identify the 3 things that have had the biggest impact along my journey it has been:

1- Food: Understanding my relationship with food and why I had cravings and how to no longer crave crap food and what foods fuel my body to become a fat burning machine free from addictive/harmful substances like sugar and other refined foods.
2- My mind: The way I view myself, my value, my worth as a woman has a huge impact on how everyone in my life is blessed when I am able to show up healthy and powerful in my roles as wife, mother, daughter and friend.  When I see myself as a powerful and energetic woman, it’s easy to invest time to work out and fuel my body with nutritious/delicious food.
3- Kettlebells: Oh how I love my kettlebells and how powerful I feel when I work out with weights! The  fastest changes I’ve ever seen in my fat loss and strength gains (mental and physical) have come from working out with kettlebells!

Wish me luck! Next weekend I’ll be in San Diego becoming a certified kettlebell trainer!

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So that’s a quick update on my journey so far. It’s been quite the ride and I wouldn’t change a thing. I’m excited to see where this year will take me. I am doing the kettlebell certification for myself to prove to myself that I will succeed and face my fear of “not knowing enough” and the fear of “failure”. If the opportunity comes along to teach, that would be incredible. My goal in the not-to-distant future is to be able to train and work with people one-on-one.

I just feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude for my journey and what I have learned and the coaches I’ve been able to be surrounded by and of course I couldn’t do this without Trent and the kids supporting me all the way. I am one blessed mama.

January Challenge

Posted by on Jan 3, 2014 in Mother | 0 comments

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The Children’s Motto

Posted by on Jan 3, 2014 in Mother | 0 comments

I found this student motto from a teacher,Charlotte Mason, and have made a commitment to myself to have each of us in the family memorize it.

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Finished BofM for Virtue project

Posted by on Jan 1, 2014 in Daughter, Mother | 0 comments

I did an intense 30 day challenge to read the Book of Mormon for my virtue project for my personal progress.

It was an incredible month of December! I listened to alot it through mormon channel but I finished.

I was excited to share with my children my goal and hope to continue in my effort to be an example to them by reading each night.

The month of January I’m going to focus more on study and understanding.

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