Daughter

“Of all the creations of the almighty there is none more beautiful, none more inspiring than a lovely daughter of God. Who walks in virtue with an understanding of why she should do so. Who nurtures her spirit with everlasting truth.” — Gordon B. Hinckley

October 2013 General Conference

Posted by on Oct 7, 2013 in Daughter, Mother | 0 comments

I came across this post and she hit it spot on for me.

The two things I took away from conference was that I am to be a mother and a missionary.

God has entrusted me with these precious 4 little people and I am commanded to teach, lead and guide them to the temple.

The last few weeks we have been doing morning devotionals before they head off to school and I know it’s made a difference even if it’s having more peace in our home.

I know that if we do the small and simple acts each day to ensure their knowledge of Christ we as parents will have power to teach, lead and guide them.

I just feel an overwhelming love from my Savior in my role as a daughter, wife and mother. He is by my side and I can’t do this job alone.

I was able to take the girls to conference just us three. What a treat that was to sit next to them and see them write down their question of what they wanted to learn from conference. I kept reaching over to each of them to ask how they were feeling and each time they mentioned either warm or happy.

One of the biggest things we need to teach right now is to help them feel the spirit and it’s in those moments where you need to help them recognize it when you feel it.

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I made these bags with the help of Monica who sews for the kids to use to help them listen. It worked so well. I went to Trader Joe’s and filled each bag with a food item from there. I love Trader Joe’s!

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LIVE BIG Retreat Day One

Posted by on Sep 27, 2013 in Daughter | 0 comments

Trent and I were invited to attend a seminar called Live BIG. Trent met Gerald Rogers a few years back in a mastermind group. They met up again after we came to Utah and he mentioned his event and the date and Trent told him it was our 12th anniversary weekend. Gerald then said that this event would be a great thing for the two of us to share together.

It was 3 of the most fun, inspiring, intense and transformational days I have ever experienced.

I learned so much about myself and how to break through my limiting patterns, to stand more in my power and to create what I want in my life.

It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done but the most exhilarating one too.

We walked into a room filled with about 70 strangers on the first day and came away on the 3rd day the best of friends. We broke down our walls and we were all real and honest with eachother.

Our first exercise was to walk around and meet as many people as we could but do it in a attitude of like we didn’t want to be there. Very awkward and very hard not to laugh or smile.

The second exercise was that we had to meet them as though we had to “make the sell” or “seal the deal”. This go round was a little harder for me to break down my comfort level and meet as many people I could in a small amount of time.

I was nervous about the last exercise in which we had to greet them as though they were our long lost friends! Are you kidding me?? I have to hug these people and jump up and down and I just met them! Really?? Oh man that was super hard for me. I don’t look for physical touch its at the bottom of my list especially to strangers. Oh man sooo hard! But I did it and after about 5 people I said “what the heck just do it” nobody will ever see me again anyway. Oh boy was I wrong in that thought now we are all planning our next party because we became such close friends!

So what does it mean to LIVE BIG?
Do what you want, when you want, and with whom you want!

We wrote down our goal for each of area of our life:
HEALTH – to eat a wholesome natural food diet and to have energy throughout the day to keep up with my kids.
RELATIONSHIPS – to speak and interact and communicate my feelings to a person and feel confident in what I say to them.
SPIRITUAL – ask for divine help each day.
FINANCIAL – live within my budget and use my cash envelope system and save so that later I can live like no one else.

One statement to sum that all up:

“Love who I am, Love who I will be and Believe, so I can do my part to give my heart!”

We all need to look at the person who we need to connect with and picture them as God sees them.

If we can’t see the greatness in ourselves how do we reciprocate to others?

The one thing that will determine who you are is your own SELF PERCEPTION. You can never outperform it.

COMFORT ZONE
Is there a new possibility of my self perception? YES!!!!
You just need to redefine the pets motets of the box or lose it all together. Then reprogram your mind with self talk, vision board, goals, etc.

The stuff you want are outside your comfort zone you need to press against it and forms of resistance will come and you will go back into your zone.

The more you feel good about yourself and how you feel right inside the more opposition that will come.

“The more your on that path, the more resistance will come”

We are our worst critic. Imagine that!

Your brains job is to keep you safe and when you put new ideas in it asks “are you sure this is what you want?” You just tell your brain “Thanks for sharing” and keep pushing on.

What forms of resistance are you experiencing?
– doing things I haven’t done before
– not seeing results right away
– fear of letting others down

We need to RELEASE those images that others have placed in your life and we will change those stories and bring the truth to life.

COMMITMENTS
When we make a commitment and it gets broken it harder to be trusted.

We were asked as a group to obey 3 rules during the duration of the retreat
1. Be present the whole 3 days no leaving early or coming late and no cell phone usage but only on breaks.
2. No harmful substances like drinking or smoking because that can cloud our minds from being present.
3. Be on time.

We had to all stand up and agree to the group that we would follow through with our commitment. One girl was a smoker and she struggled with this one and stood in front of the whole group and promised to us that she would hold to her word and SHE DID! Five days later she still continues to breathe fresh air. So proud of her!

When we honor small commitments it makes deposits into our trust account. How do we build that trust account?
My word is worth gold and it will get done.

“The moment one fully commits to oneself then providence moves too”

What does fully 100% committed mean to me? Focus that energy on that one thing.
– using a budget and be consistent for one month
– to reading for 15 minutes a day
– saying “No”. Sometimes it’s the best way you can serve them is by saying it

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This picture shows my results or fruit on the tree. What area can I create more fruit? How did I create this? Our outer world creates are inner. Our outer world is a reflection of the inner.

The trunk represents the actions and habits and this is the bridge between the outer and inner world. The roots are the beliefs that we need to accomplish hard things and are the start of what we need to create good fruit.

Will power will never be enough to create long term change. Self image will always win.

4 questions to ask about the fruit:
1. What fruit don’t I like?
2. What have I been doing to create this result?
3. What am I doing or not doing on a daily basis?
4. What would I have to believe to take action?

OUR BODIES – BRI LISTER
Through our body we store experiences positive and negative. We forget those experiences and when we are on auto pilot and when we have bad experiences our body freezes up.

When we are present in our bodies we can control our situations. So instead of act we should create our experience.

Our bodies are like cars and a GPS they take us where we need to go and when we break down its like breaking down our body. When we are not connected to our body you’ll be depressed.

I only have one body so I need to take good care of it and listen to it and say nice things to my body.

I can hear my body it’s telling me messages. I use my body for good.

2 things I can do to make my body present
1. Deep breathing – detoxify bring you back to the present
2. Find something to physically concentrate on – she gave us each a pineapple and had use really enjoy eating it.

When we have stress our body is not in its present state in the body.

TONY LISTER
What experience have I had that sparks a memory when I’m touched?
What is your victim story?
1. Something happened
2. We make it mean something

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Our emotional compass
What was success, what was failure as done by our parents:
Education
Money
Sex
Health
Spirituality
Religion
Yourself
Relationships
Talents
Contributions

Were we as a child pleasing our parents or disappointing them in these areas above?

We all have different stories we makeup. Our body language will tell our story.

So how do we change our story? We need new emotional experiences and repetition and then repeat it for 90 days.

Our stories show up in our fears.
6 fears:
Spiritual – not getting to the end and letting go of the rod.
Self- not being good enough
Wealth- being too rich
Others – rejection
Health – death, pain, suffering
Contribution – forgotten, won’t matter

None of these fears above are true we make them up. Embrace who you are and practice it.

At the end of the night we did a personality test that Gerald created and their are 4 areas of personality
1. Oracle – leader, driven, this is Trent
2. Warriors
3. Visionary
4. Healer – this is me.

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To end the night we created our “I AM”
Statement. We picked 3 words to describe ourself and OWN it when you say it.

“I am an organized, compassionate and caring woman!”

We said it over and over again 50 times or more and we were laying on the floor with our eyes closed. Then we were guided to the middle of the room and connected with the others by putting our hands on eachothers shoulders. Then we stopped. It was a near way to end the first day all connected all in this together and we are who we said we were!

Personal Progress reminder

Posted by on Sep 15, 2013 in Daughter | 0 comments

I’ve been trying to think of ways I can remind myself each day to work on one of the value experiences for personal progress.

I finally came up with one and put it onto my phone’s wallpaper.

Why didn’t I think of this earlier? I took a picture of the words of the value experience online horizontally and took the picture of the screen then added it to the wallpaper from my camera roll.

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Blessings of the Temple

Posted by on May 19, 2013 in Daughter | 0 comments

Take watch off cause Time stops

What sacrifice am I giving??

Blessings of going to the temple
109:15. Be prepared to obtain every needful thing
109:22 Angels have charge over them
25-26. Satan No power over us
32-33. Helps you bear affliction better
36-37. Speak in tongues and see visions. Revelation
54-58 pray for our worldly leaders and softening people hearts to receive the gospel
72-74 take and prepare others for the final stages of this world

Anchoring our Children to Heaven

Posted by on May 4, 2013 in Daughter | 0 comments

From 2013 Women’s Conference. Allie’s notes she took at this class:

Anchoring our children to heaven
Ether 12:4
Build a foundation: Start Early
Independence
Chores, choices, consequences
Spiritual foundation
Daily actions- patterns and traditions
Adjust responsibilities as mature
Principle of Work:
Obedience, respect, reverence, service
Work is a gift, work is a blessing, love of work is success. – David O’McKay.
Be happy when work
A reservoir of goodwill
-make special time (15-20mins) with each child a day.
-pay attention to positives
-gain trust
– no commands, instructions, or probing
-finish with expressing how much you enjoyed being with them.
—-This teaches-Not all interactions are about misbehaving or correction
Connection, monitoring, autonomy
Make time for time. Spend positive time with kids. We need to make that happen. Be intentional.
On raising children, “It’s not something you do if you can squeeze time in, it is what God gave you time for.” Neil Andersen
Rose blooming story/lesson
If we have faith and are connected with the sane anchor with our children, we don’t need to hover.
Coach your child thru problems, don’t try to solve them for them.
Have faith that God is there. Our children wee his before they were ours.
Let them choose:
Learn principles together, invite them to act, observe, follow up
Let then have experiences, sometimes they will fail. They will learn and then we can rejoice in the lesson learned.
The blessing of consequences. Allow children to experience natural and logical consequences.
They learn accountability and responsibility for their choices.
Notice, focus on, and reward the positive.
Much better than punishing bad behavior
Emphasize their strengths
Tell them your proud of them
Help them recognize their God given talents.
Dinner bug- fake meal time. Practice meal behavior. “Thank you very much” before they ever have a chance to misbehave. Every 20seconds, then more time in between praise.
We miss opportunities to praise them with what they are doing well.
No dumb questions: the Book of Mormon came because a boy asked a question.
James 1:5
Teach children to get on knees and ask Heavenly Father.
The power of the Book of Mormon in our homes.
Marion G Romney, ensign may 1980

The Family: A Proclamation to the World

Posted by on Apr 15, 2013 in Daughter, Mother | 0 comments

We have on our wall our family picture and surrounding our picture are words that are so dear to Trent and I but as a family we have yet to really dive into its meanings and study it.

For the next 9 weeks for our Family Home Evenings we will be breaking down this document paragraph by paragraph in hopes that our children will understand why this document is so special and so pivotal to our day in time.

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My Holy Places

Posted by on Apr 5, 2013 in Daughter | 0 comments

Have I created a holy place for myself?

This is the question that ran through my mind as I listened to www.lds.org/broadcasts/article/general-young-women-meeting/2013/03/your-holy-places?lang=eng talk from Sister Dibb at the general young women meeting.

The more I thought about it later I not only thought of myself but my family. Are my children feeling the spirit in my home? Are they creating a safe holy place for them to enjoy like I have?

As I thought of my own I have also thought of the tender mercies that too that have allowed me to have unusual experiences in the most unforseen times of my life. I look back and think that’s incredible that that just happened in the place it did and in the time it happened. That place became holy in that instant.

I also enjoyed how she describes the Liberty jail and how we all suffer at times in our lives and feel utterly alone and have to endure our own struggles but we too can receive revelation in the worst of times. That’s when we need to turn to him the most.

I’ve thrown my hands up many times and finally would break down to my knees by my bedside and my closet. Those places have become holy.

I remember times as a youth in the summer going to camp and how I enjoyed my time there. I loved being in nature and being in a holy place with the other girls and feeling loved as well as the spirit.

3 Questions Book of Mormon Challenge

Posted by on Apr 1, 2013 in Daughter | 0 comments

I’ve been looking for a creative way to study the Book of Mormon lately and to really dive into what I need to know for me as a daughter, wife and mother. I came across this wonderful post at the moment I needed to read it. It is written by a dear friend of mine whom I have grown to love and adore her words of wisdom.  I’m been doing fabulous this last week at getting up at 6:30am every morning to read this book and to ponder these questions each day.

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Garden of Gethsemane Lesson

Posted by on Mar 31, 2013 in Daughter | 0 comments

I was asked by my bishop to share in the 5th Sunday combined lesson with Young Women and Young Men about the experience Christ had in the Garden of Gethsemane.

I was overwhelmed at the task because of the nature of the topic. It’s so close and dear to so many of us.

I began my thoughts with my experience with the Mormon Channel. I shared how much I listen to it and one day found an answer to my prayer about this talk. They were reading a book and shared this excerpt.

It was a paragraph in “Our Search for Happiness” by M Russell Ballard. He talks of a firefighter who goes into a house and saves 5 people and runs back into the house but the people told him that they were all accounted for. The firefighter tells them that he saw one more and he ran back in. Seconds later the house exploded and knew that he couldn’t have made it.

A few hours later they found his body huddled over a baby cradle and what lay inside was a baby doll unscratched.

Ballard goes on to say, “As I think about such heroism, however, I’m reminded that the most heroic act ever was performed in behalf of all mankind by the Son of God. In a very real sense, all humanity-past, present, and future- was trapped behind a wall of flame that was fueled and fanned by our own faithlessness. Sin separated mortals from God and would do so forever unless a way was found to put out the fires of sin and rescue us from ourselves. The way would not be easy, for it required the vicarious sacrifice of One who was sinless and who was willing to pay the price of sin for all of humanity, now and forever. Thankfully, the most significant role was heroically played by Jesus Christ on two different stages in ancient Jerusalem. The first act was performed quietly, on bended knee in the Garden of Gethsemane.”

This Easter season we not only want you to remember his resurrection but also his suffering in the Garden of Gethsemane.

I then opened up the scriptural account of this experience and we read and shared together.

Matthew 26: 36-46
Luke 22: 39-44

Jesus Christ was utterly alone in the Garden and it had to be so. He calls out “O my Father” in the scriptures. He pled and had great drops of blood.

We however will not suffer alone. He walks with us and will be there to yield us up and carry our burdens if we ask for his help.

“He’s been there done that” as I like to think of it when I am in the midst of my struggles, weaknesses and trials.

I had them recite the 1st verse of “I Stand All Amazed” that verse is so powerful and if we talk heed to its counsel it will be wonderful.

The last story is from an Easter packet we just delivered as a Young Women group to various sisters in our ward. We gave them each an Easter tree along with 5 eggs to hang on their tree and a message.

I loved this story and wanted to share it with them. It’s called “The Divinity of Jesus Christ” by Elder Orson F Whitney.

One night I dreamed—if dream it may be called—that I was in the Garden of Gethsemane, a witness of the Savior’s agony. I saw Him as plainly as I see this congregation. I stood behind a tree in the foreground, where I could see without being seen. Jesus, with Peter, James, and John, came through a little wicket gate at my right. Leaving the three Apostles there, after telling them to kneel and pray, He passed over to the other side, where He also knelt and prayed. It was the same prayer with which we are all familiar: “O my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt” ([see] Matthew 26:36–44 [Matt. 26:36–44]; Mark 14:32–41Luke 22:42).

As He prayed the tears streamed down His face, which was toward me. I was so moved at the sight that I wept also, out of pure sympathy with His great sorrow. My whole heart went out to Him. I loved Him with all my soul and longed to be with Him as I longed for nothing else.

Presently He arose and walked to where the Apostles were kneeling—fast asleep! He shook them gently, awoke them, and in a tone of tender reproach, untinctured by the least suggestion of anger or scolding, asked them if they could not watch with Him one hour. There He was, with the weight of the world’s sin upon His shoulders, with the pangs of every man, woman, and child shooting through His sensitive soul—and they could not watch with Him one poor hour!

Returning to His place, He prayed again and then went back and found them again sleeping. Again He awoke them, admonished them, and returned and prayed as before. Three times this happened, until I was perfectly familiar with His appearance—face, form, and movements. He was of noble stature and of majestic mien—not at all the weak, effeminate being that some painters have portrayed—a very God among men, yet as meek and lowly as a little child.

All at once the circumstance seemed to change, the scene remaining just the same. Instead of before, it was after the Crucifixion, and the Savior, with those three Apostles, now stood together in a group at my left. They were about to depart and ascend into heaven. I could endure it no longer. I ran out from behind the tree, fell at His feet, clasped Him around the knees, and begged Him to take me with Him.

I shall never forget the kind and gentle manner in which He stooped and raised me up and embraced me. It was so vivid, so real, that I felt the very warmth of His bosom against which I rested. Then He said: “No, my son; these have finished their work, and they may go with me, but you must stay and finish yours.” Still I clung to Him. Gazing up into His face—for He was taller than I—I besought Him most earnestly: “Well, promise me that I will come to You at the last.” He smiled sweetly and tenderly and replied: “That will depend entirely upon yourself.” I awoke with a sob in my throat, and it was morning.

30 Days of Easter

Posted by on Mar 1, 2013 in Daughter, Mother | 0 comments

I’ve been needing to add to my holiday tradition box of ideas for my children. I came across this one recently and was really excited to put it together for my children.

I printed it off and laminated it for extra durability for the years to come. Plus now that I have these trees I put them to good use and I just might continue to add to them for each holiday.

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